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CONTACT ME |
If you have read this and would like an appointment or would
like to talk to me further before making an appointment, please
feel free to call me at 918-254-1023 in Broken Arrow, OK. If you
leave a message I will call you back.
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WHAT TO EXPECT |
When you come to me for a session I expect to be
able to identify and eliminate at least one imprinted,
irrational belief. This usually takes an hour to an
hour-and-a-half. The charge for the first hour, or less, is
$100, but then each minute after that first hour is just $1. I
don’t diagnose by the DSM so insurance will not cover the cost.
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Bi-polar/depression
In the past year there has been an increase of people coming to me
having already been diagnosed as being bi-polar. This is a new term to
label what used to be referred to as manic-depressive. By describing a
person's tendency to suffer from mood swings (one end of which is
severe depression) as bi-polar the implication is that they suffer
from a physiological problem. Something in their brain is
misfiring…malfunctioning. This could lead to hope that some drug could
fix the problem.
It's been my experience that perceiving depression as a physiological
problem generally misses the real source. I can't think of anyone who
has come to me suffering from any kind of depression that I have not
been able to help by treating it as a psycho-somatic problem.
Depression, in general, is unexpressed anger (and this anger is always
experienced as a result of fear).
For example, let's imagine an eight-year-old boy whose mother and
father are divorced. The father is never around and the mother is
abusive in her discipline and emotionally manipulates the child. When
this mother's typical treatment of her son triggers anger and
resentment in him, he will probably learn that it is too risky to
express his natural feelings. His mother is his only source of
safety…and he might have already decided that maybe he can get her to
love him more if he is compliant. As this dysfunctional relationship
develops, the eight-year-old comes to "believe" that to express his
anger is too dangerous (because of his fears of his mother's
abandonment and/or unreasonable punishment).
Let's imagine that this boy becomes an adult and finds himself in a
situation in which he is suffering from depression because he is not
able to express his anger at a co-worker or his boss. He might very
well assume that he is depressed because he is not able to stand up
for his rights to his boss. But I would immediately suspect that there
is a deeper, earlier issue at work. I want to know why he is not able
to express this anger…and why he feels so badly about not being able
to express it. He is not able to express his anger at his boss because
he has an imprint that says it is too dangerous. This imprinted belief
is dominating his conscious effort to change his life, rendering him
helpless and depressed.
Also, he is not nearly as depressed because he can't confront his boss
as he is because he is "re-experiencing" his childhood frustrations
and fears. No wonder he can't express his feelings! He's eight years
old…and very afraid. That is what imprints do to us…and that is how
these beliefs take over our conscious efforts to live our lives.
Depression is unexpressed anger…anger too dangerous to express because
of fearful childhood experiences that caused the individual to create
defense mechanisms that could not be questioned, and, have never been
questioned since the moment they were formed. My approach involves
discovering what these beliefs are and eliminating their irrational
application to current adult situations. This does not guarantee that
the adult will make perfect decisions but that he will be able to
express his feelings free of unwarranted, inappropriate fear and that
he will no longer have any possibility of re-experiencing the fears of
a childhood situation that can no longer possibly occur. |
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